We use every trick in the book to avoid being alone. We keep busy, we work overtime. But, actually without solitude of some sort, there is and can be no maturity. Unless one becomes empty and alone, he cannot give himself in love, because he does not possesses the deep self which is the only gift worthy of love. Young people are particularly afraid to be alone. It is only when we become older and more mature that we realize that we have to be alone from time to time to discover ourselves. But sitting alone in a place, we can visualize our everyday action being tossed into the currents and whirlpools of the great river of life and being thoroughly mixed in a great matrix of interconnectedness.
Those who take upon themselves the adventure of treading the successful path must also learn to let go their separate selves. The real self, the deep self, can not be discovered in the midst of other people.